How to Make a Good Dating Profile That Get Dates

Dating

Jan 28

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Dating online used to be taboo. Now it’s a must if you want to connect with other single people. If you’re not dating online your family may wonder how you’ll survive an apocalypse without a partner. There’s an artform in creating a dating profile that will get you the most dates. Let’s get to it. I’m going to help make it easier to get connections on Tinder, Bumble, Hinge or any other dating app. Here are the Dos and Don’ts of a dating profile.

Dating Profile Photo

Do Use the Most Flattering Photo

Your profile photo. You need to use the most flattering photo of yourself. That looks like you. You can’t FaceTune your face in real life. It’s best to find a photo where a date will recognize you when you walk into the bar. You don’t want to hide in the shadows on your first date. For photos, it's best to have a photo of your face, one that shows you having fun, and one that shows what makes you unique.

These are the main three photos you want to showcase on your profile. It can be you looking good at an event, you playing guitar and then you skydive. I don’t know whatever you like to do. This makes it easier to start a conversation. Also, it’s good to get a full-body photo in there. No matter your body size. It’s good to not surprise people with how you look. You’ll go into the date more confident that they like you for you.

Don’t Over Edit or Use Group Shots Only

It’s okay to edit your photos a little bit if that’s what you like to do. Make sure to not over-edit where you look like someone who doesn’t exist. Subtle editing is fine, don’t get carried away. If you do you’ll be nervous about how your date will react when you see them for the first time. I’ve heard horror stories of this and the date feeling cat-fished.

Don’t put a group shot as your first photo. There are so many reasons I hate when a first photo or all the photos are group shots. It’s because we don’t know you! We don’t know which person you are. You’re also advertising that you might have friends that the person is more attracted too than you. I don’t think it’s bad to include a group shot in your photos. Make sure you’ve established who you are first. Those first few photos need to be only you.

Overall Dating Profile Tone

Do Stay Positive

Stay positive and show a beaming personality. Keep the bio about what makes you happy and what you enjoy doing. You want to show that you’re a joy to be around and that they will have fun if they hang out with you. No one is on a dating app to hang out with a downer. With a lot of options to chose from. If you don’t show that you’re down to do fun activities or laugh. Then that’s an easy way to miss out on the potential to get dates.

Don’t Be Too Negative

Guess what? Most people don’t want to be on a dating site or app to meet people. For some people, it’s the best way for them to meet someone. Fewer people are meeting in real life. It still happens but dating apps are a positive way to up your chances without going out all the time. Remember that everyone on a dating app is in the same boat. We don’t want to hear about how you hate it or you’re not good at it. Keep your profile light-hearted and representative of the type of people you hope to meet on the app. Think about the theme of your page and keep it on the positive.

Don’t get too personal and negative. Fight all urges to express that you got out of a 5-year relationship and had nothing better to do. We also don’t want to hear about how dating has screwed you over and you hate it. Yikes!

Writing Your Dating Profile Bio

Do Share Hobbies and Interests

Be specific about certain hobbies or interests you have. By doing this you create conversation starters and stand out. This is where you write you’ve backpacked Europe and your favorite location was a remote town. You can put that you have a dog named Spot named after your favorite book as a kid. Make sure to keep it short, no one wants to read an autobiography. Leave them wanting to get to know more. If you’re an emoji person use a few because I find people who do seem a little more fun.

Don’t Be Generic

You must write something in your bio to have the best chance of making connections. On that note, you can’t be generic. When people are swiping hundreds of profiles a generic one will get you nowhere. Example a lot of guys will say “I’m a nice guy that likes meeting new people.” That tells me nothing about you. If I was going to make a first move based on your profile you gave me nothing to work with. That profile sucks. People are lazy and they don’t want to put too much thought into these messages. Don’t make it hard for them to strike up a conversation.

Before You Post Your Dating Profile

Do Have Someone Look It Over

Now that you have a great profile it’s time to post it. Make sure to have someone that cares about you look it over and give pointers. This is a great job for a best friend or sibling. Someone that wants the best for your dating life. This will allow them to suggest better photos or ideas for your bio. They might also have a chance to add shining highlights you forgot about. Definitely not a good look if you spell something wrong or use the wrong form of you’re. They might also have a chance to add some shining highlights you forgot or a better photo.

Don’t Post A Mile Long Wishlist

Make sure your profile is a good representation of yourself and not a wishlist for what you look for in a partner. Dating apps are about being open to new possibilities. When you list off everything you do and don’t want in the other person it makes you look picky. It also makes people question what redeeming qualities you bring to the table.

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